Throughout this process I've been a huge advocate for transparency and openness. The more that I have been open and told people who care about us, the more the whole thing has seemed normal, and just another medical challenge like so many people face.
However, we've reached a point where it makes sense to at least leave some details out of the story. The decision that comes next for us, given our choice to use donor sperm, is one that we very much want to be ours and known by the people closest to us. So, we won't be discussing the details of the choice we make regarding the source of our little helpers here. The decision to leave these details out was not taken lightly. As you can gather by reading our story, I am an over-sharer. It will be difficult for me to not discuss our thought process and the complexities that come with it, other than donor generalities, in this space. I'll get over it, and I trust you will as well.
Know this though: There are a large number of offers that appear on the table when you reach this point, when you have amazing people around you. There are great sources for anonymous donors. Ivy League educations are expensive, Ivy League sperm are cheaper.
The pace of our journey slows down from here. Where we have been thinking about days and weeks, we need to start thinking about months, and possibly years. Changing pace is difficult in any race. The body and mind enjoy the rhythm, and fight as you decrease the cadence. We find ourselves fighting the pace lately. We get disappointed when we hear about FDA requirements, required counseling, differences between policies at different hospitals. We need to focus on the goal of a third heartbeat (ok fourth including Brady) in our family, and trust our legs.
